even though there are 20 messages in your voicemail urging you to do something, you are still boredom loitering on the Internet. Although you look as if nothing has happened, your inner anxiety makes you feel on pins and needles. You don't even understand why you are so anxious about the mountains of tasks, but you lack the motivation to do things and even waste your time doing irrelevant things.

28-year-old Cheng Jiajia is a marketing executive who is alone in charge of the company's promotional activities. there is no doubt that she should be fast-paced and busy. However, only Cheng Jiajia knew that if she had five days to prepare for the event, she must have been absent-minded and seemingly leisurely in the first four days. Only on the fifth day, when the deadline approached, did she contact the shopping mall, stock, and promoters like crazy. Often, to the last second, she took care of everything and let go of her hanging heart. Don't think that Cheng Jiajia works well and has relaxation. In fact, in the first four days when she seems to have nothing to do, she has been suffering-every day she tells herself: it's time to act, time is running out! However, she just couldn't get into work and still couldn't help loitering in the office. When she gets off work every day, she keeps condemning herself: it's so inefficient, it's hopeless!

in fact, Cheng Jiajia is just one of the habitual procrastinators, and 20% of us live a procrastinating life. Don't think that they are irresponsible or lazy, they tend to be more anxious, because they know that procrastination endangers their future and disturbs their peace of mind, but they still make the same mistake.

We used to ask procrastinators to learn how to manage their time, but psychologists hit the nail on the head-procrastination is not only because they are inefficient and lazy, but because they have certain psychological problems. Don't think that the procrastinator is super irresponsible. In fact, when he watches TV at his leisure, he knows better than anyone that he should use this time to drive out the plan requested by his boss, so he is always surrounded by guilt.

it is not difficult to see that procrastination is a form of self-torture. Dr Tim Pezier, an associate professor of psychology at Catton University in Ottawa, Canada, once conducted a survey of 100 company employees who thought they had procrastination problems and followed them in the last week before their mission. At first these people said they felt anxious and guilty because they had not yet started to do their "homework". At this time, they will comfort themselves: I will perform better under pressure; it's okay to be a little later. However, once they get to work, they show more positive emotions, they no longer bemoan the passing of light, and they don't say that stress helps them to work.

Pizier also found that procrastination is also harmful to health. People who are used to procrastination are more likely to drink and smoke, along with insomnia and stomach problems, and they are more likely to catch colds and flu.

so why can't procrastination be done efficiently and on time?

1. Like stress?

many procrastinators are convinced that they will work better under pressure, or they think putting things off will make them feel better. Just tomorrow after tomorrow, how many tomorrow, the last minute to get out of the work is often far from satisfactory. Although they think they will perform better under pressure, experts point out: "under pressure, their performance is really poor." Therefore, "taking pressure as the driving force and striving to create better performance" is only the procrastinator's own assumption and excuse.

2. Afraid of failure?

Ph.D., author of do it now, points out that "the main reason people procrastinate is fear." Procrastinators are afraid of failure because they do not have the corresponding talents or skills, so they would rather be seen as not strong enough than not capable enough. They can not accept the reality of their own "incompetence", it is afraid that others will see through his stupidity.

isn't that the case? When you are scolded by your boss for not finishing a task, you are always complaining that time is too tight, but not frankly that you don't know how to handle your work at all. Although you have lost face in front of your colleagues, the former excuse can restore some dignity for you.

3. perfectionist?

procrastinators tend to be perfectionists. Those who want to win will not procrastinate, they will try their best to finish their work on time; but perfectionists will often postpone their plans because they care too much about what other people think, he wants to please others, and he is always worried: "if I don't have perfect work results, no one will like me." This perfectionism also leads to the absence of endings in many novels.

4. No self-control?

experts believe that impulsive and reckless people may not be able to prioritize things well because they do not know how to control themselves. For example, when writing an annual plan, you might stop for a midnight snack, and then you think the refrigerator is a little dirty, so you want to clean it up, and finally, you clean up the whole kitchen.

5. The mistakes of autocratic parents?

authoritarian parents often create procrastinators. Experts believe that their children procrastinate because their parents often criticize their decisions, or they may deliberately procrastinate out of rebellion.

6. Looking for excitement?

some people procrastinate because they like excitement. They always stay in the bar until the deadline, then run breathlessly to the bus stop and rush into the car just before the last bus closes. Yes, this "just right" without wasting a second brings them an alternative sense of satisfaction.

7. Anxiety?

procrastination may be associated with certain situations, and psychologists believe that people always avoid difficult and boring things. Experts point out that even the cleverest people will postpone their plan to bargain with the boss.

8. Depressed mood?

depressed emotions can lead to procrastination; high emotions can make people more productive. Depression is closely related to procrastination, because depressed people don't feel happy at all, so everything looks so pale and boring to him, which makes it difficult to start and have no clear purpose in life.

when do I finish my work?

1. Set more specific goals

if your plan is "I want to lose weight and stay in shape", then the plan is likely to fail. But if your plan is, "I get up at 7: 00 a. M. three times a week for a run," then it's likely to stick to it. Therefore, you might as well divide the task into small goals that can be controlled. When your home looks like a garbage dump, it may be unrealistic to keep it spotless immediately, but it's not too difficult to take fifteen minutes to clean the bathroom.

2. Don't give yourself too long

psychologist Foval has found that graduate students who take two years to finish their papers always give themselves some time to relax and rest. Those who spend three or more years writing papers spend almost every minute collecting information and writing. Therefore, sometimes the longer the working hours, the lower the work efficiency.

3. Not necessarily brave men under pressure

do not easily believe false claims such as "there must be brave men under pressure". You can make a schedule for setting short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals to avoid delaying everything until the last minute.

4. Be selective

if you are a perfectionist, please go all out on what really matters. You don't have to choose your words carefully when you send each email, but the plan submitted to your boss should be detailed and detailed.

5. Seek professional help

if procrastination affects your future, see a psychiatrist. Cognitive behavioral therapy may be effective.

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from: i170/kevin