My grandmother, born twenty-first month of Ren Shen (Gregorian calendar February 25, 1932), died of illness in December Nianqi Ding Day (Gregorian calendar February 12, 2018) around 17:40, at the age of 86 years old (nominal age).

Today is March 18, 2018, two days of February Lunar New Year Reform Movement, is the grandmother of 3157. From this day, I wrote a paper record of things before and after the grandmother died, in honor of my grandmother, and this people suffering years.

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2018 the evening of February 11, Hongli I call and tell her the next day I'm going to their house. This is my Hongli long set of requirements, so before I go to their house, call ahead one day. Then they prepare a good meal, in case I go after no food. The Hongli said by telephone: "You basking sick, I want to take you to basking (township) injections, three in the afternoon small passenger sit back." I should like to ask how is it under, but Hongli ears could not hear me, I shouted into the phone, she could not hear. Hongli in the end I do not know how it happened, how deaf ears this time on it? So I said: "Then I will not go tomorrow, another day go." My mother said, the mother said, the weather is cold, such a great age, the future may be able to spring Huanguo Lai.

February 12 at noon, my mother received a phone call, number 553, I knew it was Hongli calling. 553 is a mobile network cornet family. My father according to my request in 2014, the family opened a net initial aim is that they can easily give me a call, and later his father put a few loved ones are added in, the father pay $ 10 monthly fee, others will They are free with each person to other people within the family network group calling free 1000 minutes, after calling the province beyond the 0.1 yuan/min. Net family can add up to 15 people, cornet is 551 to 5515, the mother is 551, I 559, Hongli is 553, the father is the main group, fixed allocation 555. This time to see the caller's number is 553, you know Hongli fight over.

I answered the phone, Hongli asked me why I did not go to their home. I said: "I do not mean to take yesterday basking go (township) injections do three in the afternoon before I came back, I will not go?." She said: "There is no going (township) injection, a direct hit at home .? how come you do not come, "I explained:" not going to say (township) injections, then three in the afternoon to sit back it off a small "Hongli ears could not hear my explanation, but? then she put the phone to the side of the aunt. My aunt always speak bluntly, always like the world owed her anything, but must have supernatural powers to do things other people can guess how she wants to do, and then press the idea she did not say to do, or to scold you, my big uncle because this is always reprimanded her. Aunt with reproach: "You basking disease very heavy, you can not look at one last ye ah ah ah ah?" I listened to the brain is a blank, so I said:. "OK, then, on the past."

I said it to his mother. We prepare lunch rush. Before dinner, his mother packed up things, mainly that I gave her 200 dollars and took me to buy a home in Yunnan Ka Wah flowers cake with several bags. We also dined rush. Since our village is not open to traffic, so I called the chef who runs a privately run car, let him come to my house here to meet my mother, grandmother pulled directly in the village. I did not go, because I want to light a fire at home. No heating in rural areas of the Northeast, heating needs its own light a fire. If no one at home, one day does not light a fire, and that the family would not come into the cold, frost at the house, their own homes spent a thousand dollars to buy the boiler will be damaged by frost.

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Around 4:30 pm, the mother called and told me not forget the night before the boiler pressure is good, and pay attention to ventilation, to prevent soot poisoning. I asked about the situation grandmother. The case of doping mother a bunch of nonsense talked about for ages, probably enough to choke grandmother now, I do not know whether Huanguo Lai, do not know how long it can hold.

Hung up the phone, I went to the boiler lit. Sunset, has come to the evening. Point the boiler, I went to bed boiler room that also gave lit up. About 5:30, is preparing hot supper, I was the wood frame below the cauldron. Father half past four in the back, at the moment, so I will be ready after a good hot meal for dinner. Just as I was about to stand a good firewood, his father's phone rang. I looked at the phone screen, 551, I was immediately understand how in the end, but I can not say.

Father answered the phone, what the mother said one end of the phone, mouthed father said to me:. "You Basking no" after hanging up the phone, I said to my father: "You go right now or after dinner and then? ? go, "his father said:" do not eat, you eat, do not forget to press the stove at night I want to buy those items, white, yellow paper that "he then put on cotton coat, then turned away...

I light a fire at home, always thinking about what grandmother. Think of a child; think of the last time I saw her; think after her death, the family fell apart.

(3)

Ten-thirty that night, I Kanwu house temperature is maintained at a 12 , I will press the stove, ready for bed. Lying on the kang, over and over again, but how could not sleep. Open the phone, and the chat group Friends of the QQ group, went to look at micro-channel public number, looked at his blog, look to write their own articles, and watched two episodes TV series, fall asleep until later at half past twelve .

Half past five in the morning, I woke up, belly Teng Teng awake. Up to the toilet, cold and windy outside, squatting outside toilet was cold. I watched the sky began around 5:40 dawn, more than six days to start light. I lit two boilers. Then I began to hot meals. I prepared the night before the morning meal, so I burned a fire, after heating began to eat. After the meal, we have a 8:50.

From our village went to his grandmother the village, there are four buses a day. 9:05 to the village is first class, second class is from 11:30 noon to the village. Although you can sit privately run cars in the past, but I have a strong feeling, I just want to take this class passenger car. I do not know why they feel this way. I hurried out of the house, I just want to come across a car driving down a private operation, or met people who knew drove me to the village. Go out of the village, after a van drove up parked in front of me and asked me if I was going to the village, I am willing to pull some. On the bus, the driver asked me, you Whose? I said then, he said: "I know your dad, I was village (our village above the village, the village is now merged into one), My name is high, you and your dad say he .? know, the village only high my family this is the name you want to go, "I said later, he said:" Wait a minute you can catch (passenger) cars. "

To the village after the bus came quickly. When I waved hailed we found sitting in front of my five basking. Five are basking grandfather's siblings, five grandfather is my grandfather's cousin, their fathers are brothers. Five grandfather had died of cancer a few years ago. On the train, the conductor let me sit next to the door on location. People next to me immediately gave me a ticket, I was surprised, turned around and saw my uncle, five basking second son. Uncle asked me in the end how it was. I know I'll say.

Get off we go to the village. Heard the horn, I knew this was coming grandmother. I used to go to grandma's time, sometimes to catch someone dies in the village, I heard the sound of well-known speakers from the others. Nine years ago, my grandfather died, hired over speakers. This time, once again came home from his horn. Grandmother to the door, they saw a truck being carried the coffin from the top down. Due to the narrow door of the aisle, I could not in the past from the next car. At this time, the horn of his grandmother stopped. I heard from other places came the horn. It turned out that there is a village in the funeral today.

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Into the house and saw the grandmother's body is covered te le, stop in the middle of the west side of the house. Underfoot, put on the table with offerings, burning incense. The next point on the foot of soybean oil lamp. Soybean oil is a light plate, which put oil, put a thick line will be lit up. This is the soul of light to illuminate the grandmother, so she lives on the road there is a lighting lamp.

At the door, my knees knock three heads. Next to the grandmother's house, Uncle kneel down at me knock three heads, to show salute. At this point, I looked at the grandmother was covered with mixed feelings. I did not cry, but my heart badly, I do not know what to say, I do not know what to do. I went to the East house, the mother let me give a thick clothes she brought on the kang, and their parents, aunt, Hongli, who prodded. I did not see the second uncle, asked about the know, two uncle went to the cemetery, dug wells next to my grandfather's coffin.

East house, a lot of people busy preparing a variety of products. I make great aunt gave me to be a filial belt tied around the waist. Great aunt tear seven feet white, later folded, tied at my waist. Since I belong to the grandchildren, so also bring tied a red string on filial piety. Because my grandfather had died, so the tie straps at the bottom, is the head of Qi. If the deceased spouse was still alive, then the bottom of the tape is a high and one low. If the deceased person is male, with filial tie on the left; if female, with filial tie on the right.

Figure 1: Xiao belt, tied on the right, because my grandfather has died, so the bottom is together

Mother told me that this year, ah, take three people, our family was able to rely on the people, are gone. Due to family reasons, for so many years, from money to firewood, my home no less by my grandparents' home, my grandfather home to help. At this time of the year, the beginning of three, Sanjiu died; fifth day of February, my grandfather died; Nianqi the twelfth lunar month, my grandmother passed away. Three immediate family, died within a year, makes my heart unbearable.

I do not know the station or sit, I went to Westinghouse, she sat down next to my grandmother. I sit like needle felt, and go back and forth between East house and Westinghouse. I can not stand the smell of smoke they smoke, I went outside. But the shock horn ear.

Figure 2: The band was playing the trumpet

Mother told me at 1 o'clock open seats, so I went home after the meal light a fire. Burning fire, and then come back later press the stove, because the next morning the spirit. If I go home to sleep, for fear that the next morning could not arrive in time. I said: "OK, then I go home after light a fire, home, ate dinner and then a taxi to come back."

I looked at the watch, the distance at 1 o'clock and three hours. These three hours will not be tough? As a result, really tough.