Time flies too fast, a blink of an eye on a "talk with the reality and the ideal (8)" from the now nearly a year. Only when there is to say about this topic will continue, otherwise it will enter empty talk. This text series never talk, but be practical. This series for me personally, the reader, to society, are beneficial.

Today's topic is "Chat with Cha Hukou" issue. At any time, whether in reality or in the network, when China first chat with people, a lot of people like to use Cha Hukou type opening remarks, such as "Where are you? ...... What to do? ...... home ...... income ...... ", it is impolite; foreigners will not talk about these initial chat. China is particularly eager to know these people, why is this so?

This is due to a heavy heart were caused. Where are the others what to do, the situation of family members, your relationship with the distance, is the square of the galaxy, one up on so many talk. Once the extreme, I took the baby in park activities, stay in one place, a 50-year-old aunt looks very friendly, after a while child, opening the first thing is to ask me, "Where are you . " First, determine the person may have some rights in the past may have been at work in one of its organs; secondly there is no wisdom, ignorance; third, that person may be bad mouth, easy to offend people. Cha Hukou past me on these type of issues, questions and answers are truthful, now aware of these issues it is meaningless, so there is no need to answer the first meeting a stranger or even do not answer these questions. You can reply, "I am Chinese", so the answer would be more friendly and polite. Why do these questions make no sense?

First look at Cha Hukou ask questions of people, what motive? If the motivation is good, not hurt. But in many cases, motives are bad. If sincere, not to mention the general good faith. Only in the case earlier with the same problem of self-introduction, and then ask the other side, the motivation is sincere. Even if the motivation is sincere, there is no need Cha Hukou of. Chat with strangers, who would use the same issue introduce myself first, and then ask each other's privacy issues? So most of the motives are bad. Since the motive is not good, there is no need to ask. Asked, it would have a relationship with you. Some people may be motivated regardless of the other feelings, I want to know you; some people may want to know the motivation you have any interest for him; some people may be motivated to know what you want to use value to him; some people are I want to make a comparison or comparisons, for example, ask income.

He was asked who certainly feel uncomfortable. Why this topic on the "talk with the reality and the ideal," the series? This is to facilitate analysis. First Cha Hukou person, who is not even their own life came from where to go, do not know, why ask others? If a person lives come to know where to go, then I will not ask these questions Cha Hukou is dedicated to. Every inquiry is limited in others, equal to declare the identity of his victims once again is so limited. Such as "Where are you" question, would involve a person's privacy, related to the origin. Where a person is a person, how to birth, does not matter in the near future, each will eliminate inter-regional (this time may occur in 2013 and beyond), then no one would like to ask this question, only the original humans will have such a strong regional consciousness. There are a lot of people have to leave home for many years, "Where are you", that there may exist a subconscious is to make his victims pushed back to his hometown, which is to be asked who feel uncomfortable or offensive reasons. Now that you have here, what should I push you right back? So nice to meet you ask this question, absolutely rude. Whether you are comparing older or younger people, I can not ask this question.

Secondly, the person doing the work, and you are not related. "Dialogue with God" This book is a point I agree, is that life is not any task, nothing is to be done. In reality, people are engaged in work, in fact, many are negative, all the work had to be enslaved, purely to make money, freedom to work have no choice. Ask each other occupation, is to ask once again that the identity of the person is so limited, the statement was again asked who no freedom. So nice to meet you ask this question, but also rude.

Cultivate a humble (modest) state of mind is very difficult, is precisely what the community needs most. If everybody can do that, society, the family will never be a tragedy. Reality is often a lot of people more or less arrogant, conceited, yes ah, often ego can not survive in this society, which resulted in the people's hearts are heavy, willing to elevate themselves by belittling others. Inquire into people's privacy, there are subconscious belittle others to elevate themselves; subconsciously tend to want to manage (slavery) of others. A humble man, certainly not inquire about other people's privacy.

The good news is, in reality, there are many people no different from the heart. They never inquire into the privacy of others, not to Cha Hukou first meeting to ask the question, who is self-cultivation, cultivation, or wise man. How to define privacy? People generally do not want anyone to know, it is privacy. Of course, if the other party take the initiative to talk about their own affairs, may not be the privacy of, for example, some people will take the initiative to say some of these problems, "Cha Hukou" in this time and the other to talk about such topics, in principle, still have to respect each other's privacy, do not ask too much, not to interfere.

Note: To reduce the wordy language, in this article, "I", "you", the era referred to as "Cha Hukou" who have age refers to his victims, the reader discern the context.